Irrational Fears, Opinions of Others and Unleashing your Inner Badass.
For the longest time I never viewed myself as a blogger - or really a writer of any fashion. Words don’t seem to just flow out of me fluently, poetically or in a way where I thought anyone would want to read what I have to say. That being said, I decided my first blog post will be about irrational fears, opinions of others and unleashing your inner badass.
Just to give you a quick background on me, I grew up homeschooled and the oldest in a Christian home of 7 kids. I got a degree in Vascular Ultrasound, quickly found it wasn’t my passion and returned to working at Starbucks which allowed me flexibility to explore and discover. I was married at 21 and divorced as of quite recently at 26. I found yoga in 2014 and slowly started shifting my Instagram account into a fitness account. Taking progress pictures and joining in on challenges quickly became addicting and I discovered a massive online community of yogis.
Fast forward three years and that same account starting with a few hundred followers of mostly friends and family, grew to over three-hundred thousand from people around the globe.
So why am I telling you all of this? Well as you can imagine with an audience that large comes a relatively public lifestyle. Every, single choice I make is scrutinized whether it be good or bad. Being on social media has thrown me on a HUGE learning curve the last few years, and I always come back to a quote my mom used to tell me…
“You can be the juiciest peach on the tree and someone still isn’t going to like peaches.”
Regardless of if you are on social media or NOT, every day you will be forced to make choices that will affect the way others see you, think about you, act around you. The trick is not letting it affect YOU personally. Because at the end of the day no one else walks in your shoes, no one else is living your life, and no one else could possibly be in your head understanding why you are making the decisions you make. I think we can all respectfully acknowledge others opinions, but refuse to let it sway you in a positive or negative manner.
Its easy to make a choice in your head, but then hear one person’s opinion on the matter and let your irrational fears spiral out of control. So this is where we narrow our day down into three big steps. THOUGHTS. FEELINGS. BEHAVIOR.
When you start your day, before you even roll out of bed in the morning tell yourself, “My thoughts, affect my feelings, and my feelings affect my behavior.” They are all connected. By feeding yourself positive reinforcement throughout the day, you rewire the way your brain translates those thoughts into feelings. For example, most of us have an irrational fear of the unknown. Instead of saying to yourself, “What if I get sick, what if something happens to me, I might never be able to __ again.” Turn that thought process AROUND to something like, “I’m so thankful to be awake this morning, I never want to take my health for granted so I’m going to get in that 5 mile run this afternoon.” CHANGE the way you think. CHANGE the way you feel. CHANGE the way you act.
Let today be the day that you stop allowing others to control your decisions and start taking the reigns over your life and thoughts. Always, always stay true to who you are, regardless of if everyone else is telling you otherwise. You will forever be your own biggest fan, take the chance on yourself.